Changing Our Masculine Coding

Changing Our Masculine Coding

Changing Our Masculine Coding Wow, well, what a couple of weeks for masculinity, wouldn’t you say? Between Toronto’s mayor Rob Ford smoking crack and the Miami Dolphins locker room, we have been inundated with sordid tales of poisonous masculinity, and many people are now asking, “What does it mean to be a man?” Is Rob Ford’s cracked-out anger a sign of masculinity? Is Richie Incognito’s

The Masculine Classroom: Solving the Masculinity Crisis

The Masculine Classroom: Solving the Masculinity Crisis

Imagine the scenario: you’re a boy sitting in a classroom. At first, it seems like the typical sort of classroom you’d see in any school – desks, a blackboard, maybe a class pet. However, there’s something different with this classroom. You see, this classroom oozes masculinity. It’s not a classroom meant for math, science or English, but rather a classroom for masculinity. Yes, masculinity. In

Halloween is a War

Halloween is a War

Halloween will be here before we know it, and soon the streets will be swarming with costumed kids begging for candy. Music will be pumping throughout houses and apartments, as people throw what are arguably the most enjoyable parties of the year. Masked strangers will make out in cramped corners. Scantily clad vixens will drop to dub step. Ghosted-up bros will toast to the kind

In death, there can be no pussies

In death, there can be no pussies

Although the shutdown is in full effect, leaving many in that limbo lurch, the world hasn’t stopped, well, dying. Biology can’t be shut down, nor can the machinations of fate. We die, and that’s all there is to it. All that really matters is HOW we die. Do we die like men, or do we die like pussies? Yes, pussies. Will cowardice swim in your

Prostate cancer and effects on your guy image

Prostate cancer and effects on your guy image

In other posts, we have discussed the debilitating effects that popular culture and sociological conditions have on being a man, on the fluctuating definitions of masculinity. As men, our ears and heart are hardly ever on the same page and so we make halfhearted attempts to be masculine, but this often results in sociological failure or misguided attempts at demonstrating alpha-maleness or dominance. Nevertheless, these

Cultural testosterone and biological testosterone

Cultural testosterone and biological testosterone

Recently, everyone seems to be asking, “What is masculinity? What does it mean?” It’s not too surprising, as our national psyche has been recently injected with large amounts of guided and misguided testosterone. I mean, come on, we have seen the start of the football season, the continuing “struggles” of Walter White, the release of Grand Theft Auto 5, the hullabaloo regarding Syria, the random

Grand Theft Auto is the Great American Novel

Grand Theft Auto is the Great American Novel

Grand Theft Auto is the Great American Novel September 17th saw the release of Grand Theft Auto 5… Grand Theft Auto, if anything, deals with the evolution of American excess and desperation. It also deals with the evolution of American masculinity, how we’re determined to make a name for ourselves by any means necessary, even if it involves violence and crime. Has masculinity sunk to

A Body Full of Wounds: Masculinity and Vulnerability

A Body Full of Wounds: Masculinity and Vulnerability

A Body Full of Wounds: Masculinity and Vulnerability guyMystique’s mission Here at guyMystique, Masculinity is clearly a big concern of ours. So as part of mission, we must report “masculine happenings” in the arts and media. Today we write an article about men being strong men without using the word strength. Last week, masculinity was cause for debate on a Huffington Post article dealing with

Global Epidemic of Masculine Distress

Global Epidemic of Masculine Distress

A Global Epidemic of Masculine Distress On most nights, you feel sick. I’m not talking about a cold or the flu; I’m referring to a sense of existential nausea in the pit of your stomach. You try to use the bathroom, to either puke or shit. You don’t care which; whatever comes out first, whatever nullifies the unsettling feeling in the pit of your stomach.

Are you an animal? Three rules to keep your inner animal hungry

Are you an animal? Three rules to keep your inner animal hungry

The animal:  a taboo male fantasy In the poem “Big Night On The Town,” Charles Bukowski writes, “drunk on the dark streets of some city, / it’s night, you’re lost, where’s your / room? / you enter a bar to find yourself, / order scotch and water. / damned bar’s sloppy wet, it soaks / part of one of your shirt / sleeves.” As with

Do we need to redefine what it means to be a man? What does masculinity mean to you?

Do we need to redefine what it means to be a man? What does masculinity mean to you?

Masculinity…the word can lift or crush a man’s confidence. Either you have it or you don’t. Nah, it’s more complicated than that. Really, it is. Guys, what do you really know about masculinity? Can you define it? The simplest definition is as follows: “a set of qualities, characteristics or roles generally considered typical of, or appropriate to, a man.” Thanks Wikipedia for that enlightening definition,

Guys - where are the women?  Three resources for fun dates

Guys – where are the women? Three resources for fun dates

A while back I had the greatest date night …without having a date. I went to a singles event, this one called Paint Nite and met some really interesting people.  One person I dated and we’ve since moved on, but it was fun time the whole way with someone who had similar interests to me.  What I’ve learned is that “to meet people I want

There’s a world out there to conquer - Take her with you, She'll love it

There’s a world out there to conquer – Take her with you, She’ll love it

Guys, we’ve all had that harrowing revelation. It usually happens at night, alone, plunked on the couch, a tall boy clutched in one hand and the remote in the other. Either you’re on your third viewing of the same Sportscenter or you’re watching a Pawn Stars marathon, but regardless of what is on your sparkling flat screen, the thought is the same: I have no

Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends? The women’s perspective

Can Men and Women Really Be Just Friends? The women’s perspective

Since what seems like the beginning of time, there is one question that has been raised consistently: Can men and women be just friends? It’s a question that most would like to assume is an obvious “yes,” but is that really true? Many studies have been conducted based around this very topic yielding some interesting findings. One thing is clear; men and women are not

He works She works – Finding our personal time

He works She works – Finding our personal time

One night this week I chose to get my music library straightened out.  My partner was a little surprised when I chose not to do the TV-couples-evening on the couch thing, but she did comment that I had been planning on updating that library for two years.  I got her support to continue my two year old project, so I did.  But what surprised me

He works She works - You spend more time at work than anywhere else

He works She works – You spend more time at work than anywhere else

Communicating with our partners is a tricky subject at best. Here we are presenting a series of articles focused on moving your life towards having more fun with your partner together after work hours.  Note, you can do whatever you want in your Workplace, this first article is focused on how powerful the workplace is in our lives, and how accepting this fact can free

Facial Hair - Embracing the Scruff

Facial Hair – Embracing the Scruff

Beards, mustaches, goatees and soul patches – that’s right gentlemen, we’re talking facial hair. In the past, we’ve seen its popularity fluctuate; towards the beginning of the 20th century, a man was expected to be clean shaven and baby smooth, but as we entered into the 70’s, it was common to come across a man with more beard than face. Nowadays men are at a

Just what do men talk about when they are hanging out?

Just what do men talk about when they are hanging out?

Picture a party, or just a bunch of couples getting together over someone’s house.  At a certain point, the men seem to drift off somewhere while the women seem to congregate in the kitchen, dining room or living room.  All is normal, the women gather, share stories and gossip while the men gather and…  Who knows?  It is secret knowledge men only reveal as ‘we

Fathers Day - Give Love to Dad, it’s the manly thing to do

Fathers Day – Give Love to Dad, it’s the manly thing to do

With father’s day fast approaching, time is running out to think of the perfect gift. However, most dads don’t want their kids to spend a lot of money on them, and we know that having extra cash for gifts is a luxury hard working men don’t have. Despite this, there are several ways that you can still pull off being the favorite son without breaking

Tips for Planning the Perfect Date: A look at women's date expectations

Tips for Planning the Perfect Date: A look at women’s date expectations

So you’re trying to plan the perfect date, well a date involves action, both planning for and being on that date.  First, Planning works, and it is a must do, as it will prevent this date from turning into a comedy video.  Even if you don’t think of yourself as the most romantic guy in the world, or whether you have a long-term girlfriend or

Beer, Babes and Food happening at a Festival near You

Beer, Babes and Food happening at a Festival near You

Hey Guys, the tribal call …Beer!  Babes!  Food!  …and for married men, you’ll see other kids for your kids to look at, leaving you a nice family day out.  Now we know that the typical male does not specialize in a widely varied diet, nor can he find enough babes and food already cooked.  Look no further.  Guys, there’s a way to raise your batting

Living your Dream or Living your Goal

Living your Dream or Living your Goal

Some say:  “That guy is Living his dream”…  I say that is almost a little passive as a dream sounds so pleasurable and ‘not particularly much work’.  In Cheyne Wall’s case, I would say he is living his Goal. From guyMystique’s sister network Sport City Chefs comes interview with Cheyne Walls, an athlete turned photographer, and how his vision and on-target focus with true ‘guy

Should I make major life changes for my girlfriend?

Should I make major life changes for my girlfriend?

Guy, My girlfriend wants to travel to the Hawaii Mountains to study Finding Ourselves thru Abstinence.  This sounds fine to me, except we are going to live for three months in a clothing optional, hot-springs area with about seventy-five other men and women. We will also be practicing yoga, meditation and dance every day. Guy, I am not lost, and I am pretty sure I

Whats wrong with me, let me count the ways, guy goes deep

Whats wrong with me, let me count the ways, guy goes deep

I was talking with my girlfriend last night, she called about 10 PM. I was laying on the couch and falling asleep while holding the phone. End of a long day for me. She was on the train heading home after her evening class. The conversation slid around and ended up delving into “the bad day she had” and how she just finished a “meditation

Art, Beauty, or Obsession. So many distractions

Art, Beauty, or Obsession. So many distractions

Thoughts while walking the beach and finding this tiny bit of someone else’s life. From the “Musings of Men” files, we bring you some simple thoughts. We begin… A floating lipstick kiss left in her wake and caught in time. A simple moment for romance… As guys, are we nuts? Is the mere suggestion of a woman in an intimate moment enough to cause a

Finding Sleep on a Restless night, I seek Terra Firma of the mind

Finding Sleep on a Restless night, I seek Terra Firma of the mind

It’s late. I am falling asleep, but I can’t get to sleep.  I could sheep, but the part of my head that is still awake wants more. Movies in my mind, complete with short trailers of each of today’s happenings.  Maybe if I am lucky my next dream will be a ‘new release’ of desired events to come.  My mind struggles to bring up an

Men and Valentine's day | thoughts on connection and love

Men and Valentine’s day | thoughts on connection and love

What do men want on Valentine’s Day? To make women happy! … As a man and father of two…success at Valentine’s Day has eluded me… first thing she would like is that “I actually planned”… give her the gift in the morning and she will love you all day… Facebook all of her friends about how wonderful you are… How smart she is to have chosen you… You too can be the Master of Connection

A boys first grade socialization | the lonely walk to school

A boys first grade socialization | the lonely walk to school

I remember my first socialization with other boys from other neighborhoods, public school – first grade.  It was my first organized social life, everyone thrown together in one building and then grouped by grade. Social contact was miles between first and fourth graders at this school, yet back home in our own neighborhood we all played together – sports, cards games, bike riding, skate boards,

Real Men Do Relationships

Real Men Do Relationships

“…Who has the real quality time with my kids? Not me. Not my wife. … My kids had expectations of me when I talked to them, like they expected me to be “Dad”. I did the same when I was a kid, my parents were parents. …”

Fish Sticks | Thoughts on Love and Torment

Fish Sticks | Thoughts on Love and Torment

“…Two people in torment,
hot sticky love
Separately they burn
Together they smolder…”

Fish Sticks is about “ongoing love and keeping relationships fresh”. … having a girlfriend or partner means you got to help her be the woman she is…

Pleasing Words Lower Mens Relationship Stress

Pleasing Words Lower Mens Relationship Stress

“Honey, Men get confused when you try to correct them while they’re doing something nice. Usually the end result is not good. Sooner or later someone else comes along that is just a “little bit more supportive than you are” and… (to read more click on picture at left)

What was I thinking?

What was I thinking?

“…Probably nothing. At least until you heard “What were You thinking!” from your mate. At that point you actually started to think …not about ‘what were you thinking’, but about what your answer to this question is. It doesn’t sound good. Just what did you do? Probably something you’ve done before a hundred times…”

Girlfirend expectations - Cosmo says , we know 75 ways but are we sharing

Girlfirend expectations – Cosmo says , we know 75 ways but are we sharing

“…So as you read this, she’s probably looking at your picture and thinking/dreaming that once you two get married you will unleash this hidden knowledge, and she will be ecstatic the rest of her life, by you of course! She equates this ‘knowledge of you pleasing her’ you to ‘a year round flower garden’ …” CLICK on image at left to read more.

Beer Belly from Hell

Beer Belly from Hell

“…you are beautiful just the way you are. Feel proud when you line up for the bus or register line at the supermarket. Let others know you have “baby on board”. May I suggest a stylish bright polka dot over-shirt combined with a brand new pair of orange-sherbet elastic pants…..”
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Clutter in my life – why is it still there?

Clutter in my life – why is it still there?

“…Is my clutter actually a state of mind I am trying to maintain, like some half-digested hobby or project “on hold sitting there at the ready” waiting to be started again or filed away for posterity. Or maybe Clutter is like …”

Do women want perfect men?

Do women want perfect men?

“…“Why do us men never seem to repair the defects” that would so easily change our dating score. My basic thought is that “If we thought it was that important, we’d change…”. Now obviously there is some disconnect between what “we guys actually think…” Click picture to read more…

Why am I reading this? An open letter from guyMystique

Why am I reading this? An open letter from guyMystique

“…The closest thing to self-help books for guys are “How to Fix-it or Build-it manuals” … If you’re a guy and want to feel good – build a deck, play hard rock, run and jump… pretty simple stuff really … there actually IS “guy mystique” and just maybe … it actually makes us laugh. ” Click picture to read more…