Whats wrong with me, let me count the ways, guy goes deep

I was talking with my girlfriend last night.  Laying on the couch and falling asleep while holding the phone.  End of a long day. She was on the train heading home after class. The conversation slid around and ended up delving into “the bad day she had” and how she just finished a “meditation about how many things were wrong with her”.  I said, with [...]

Art, Beauty, or Obsession. A floating lipstick kiss

 A floating lipstick kiss left in her wake and caught in time.  A simple moment for romance…  As guys, are we nuts?  Is the mere suggestion of a woman in an intimate moment enough to cause us to pause in thought? Yet for her, I am sure this was a much smaller ‘moment in passing’ and considerably less intimate.  Something that happens everyday, a beauty [...]

Adrift on the Island of Myself I wait for Terra Firma of the mind

From floating in a plasma of seemingly endless stream of thoughts where my toes and fingers have no grasp I come awake and crawl upward gasping for another day of “air”… Repeat daily.

Men and Valentine’s day | thoughts connection and love

What do men want on Valentine’s Day? To make women happy! … As a man and father of two…success at Valentine’s Day has eluded me… first thing she would like is that “I actually planned”… give her the gift in the morning and she will love you all day… Facebook all of her friends about how wonderful you are… How smart she is to have chosen you… You too can be the Master of Connection

Tools to help connect with my partner

Do Tell Original game sounds like a great game for lovers and friends. A lot of people just need a little nudge to open up to more meaningful conversations. I grew up with a mom that was a therapist. If she thought I was upset about something, she’d want me to hit pillows with a baseball bat, or rip up a phone book. The Do [...]

Being the guy in the relationship and I’m a woman

I am responding to the other post: “I know now what being the guy in the relationship means“.  That is “me being a female fix-it type”. When I was in my twenties, I was dating a guy who was Mr. Fix-it.  One time my vacuum cleaner broke. I began to take it apart to try and fix it. He asked if I wanted help and [...]

Memories of elementary school | Social torture and fitting in

I wonder if any kid has happy memories of elementary school. It seemed like pure social torture to me, and many failed attempts to figure out how to “fit in.” Who were the kids that “fit”, and why? And then why did all the rest of us scramble about, trying to get their approval and acceptance. It could be age, race, religion, body size, that [...]

A boys first grade socialization | the lonely walk to school

I remember my first socialization with other boys from other neighborhoods, public school – first grade.  It was my first organized social life, everyone thrown together in one building and then grouped by grade. Social contact was miles between first and fourth graders at this school, yet back home in our own neighborhood we all played together – sports, cards games, bike riding, skate boards, [...]

Real Men Do Relationships

“…Who has the real quality time with my kids? Not me. Not my wife. … My kids had expectations of me when I talked to them, like they expected me to be “Dad”. I did the same when I was a kid, my parents were parents. …”

Fish Sticks | Thoughts on Love and Torment

“…Two people in torment,
hot sticky love
Separately they burn
Together they smolder…”

Fish Sticks is about “ongoing love and keeping relationships fresh”. … having a girlfriend or partner means you got to help her be the woman she is…

Pleasing Words Lower Mens Relationship Stress

“Honey, Men get confused when you try to correct them while they’re doing something nice. Usually the end result is not good. Sooner or later someone else comes along that is just a “little bit more supportive than you are” and… (to read more click on picture at left)

I know now what “being the guy in the relationship” means

…Everyone has a unique relationship. We’re people, we’re different, and each relationship is unique among others. We bring our physical selves to this ongoing event, and we also bring energies, spirit, and sometimes the proverbial “age old gender roles”….

What was I thinking?

“…Probably nothing. At least until you heard “What were You thinking!” from your mate. At that point you actually started to think …not about ‘what were you thinking’, but about what your answer to this question is. It doesn’t sound good. Just what did you do? Probably something you’ve done before a hundred times…”

Come On Cosmo! …75 ways?

“…So as you read this, she’s probably looking at your picture and thinking/dreaming that once you two get married you will unleash this hidden knowledge, and she will be ecstatic the rest of her life, by you of course! She equates this ‘knowledge of you pleasing her’ you to ‘a year round flower garden’ …” CLICK on image at left to read more.

Getting Married – Showing Up is not enough, …neither is Shutting Up

“when it comes to commitment discussions, guys are known for silence… this is where the “enlightened guy” comes in… The Ceremony and Vows… get to say how you feel … form your first agreements with the person you are going to be negotiating and agreeing with the rest of your life….” CLICK on image for full story.

Beer Belly from Hell

“…you are beautiful just the way you are. Feel proud when you line up for the bus or register line at the supermarket. Let others know you have “baby on board”. May I suggest a stylish bright polka dot over-shirt combined with a brand new pair of orange-sherbet elastic pants…..”
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The quiet man – new study reveals there’s words behind those sealed lips

“… unlocking this could be equal to unlocking the “secrets of the pyramids”…” Click on Image at left to see more…

Clutter in my life – why is it still there?

“…Is my clutter actually a state of mind I am trying to maintain, like some half-digested hobby or project “on hold sitting there at the ready” waiting to be started again or filed away for posterity. Or maybe Clutter is like …”

Do women want perfect men?

“…“Why do us men never seem to repair the defects” that would so easily change our dating score. My basic thought is that “If we thought it was that important, we’d change…”. Now obviously there is some disconnect between what “we guys actually think…” Click picture to read more…

Why am I reading this? An open letter from guyMystique

“…The closest thing to self-help books for guys are “How to Fix-it or Build-it manuals” … If you’re a guy and want to feel good – build a deck, play hard rock, run and jump… pretty simple stuff really … there actually IS “guy mystique” and just maybe … it actually makes us laugh. ” Click picture to read more…

Relationships | smile and make a compliment or two…

“…many of us are in such bad practice of not appreciating the world around us, we forget (to) …remember moments that made us laugh. …Appreciation changes us, …literally uplift the energy that belongs to a relationship or situation in your life, when you think about and speak appreciation. Your new reactions may change others. Your compliments certainly will begin to build a bridge.” Click Picture to read more ,,,

New Baby Safe Ball Relieves the Tensions of Parenting

“Raising Kids and Stress Aren’t Easy, and a little humor laughing at this situations can help ease our day. This is one of the funnier ‘darker’ videos on their site. Again, great production by the Onion Team…”
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