As a man and father of two I can say that success at Valentine’s Day has continually eluded me. Maybe it’s a mental block that stops me from doing any preparation or showing the love in such a way that gets the success I am looking for. The search for the answer continues for us guys, as we now have two questions: “What do women want?” and “What do women want on Valentine’s Day?”
Well, after years of Valentine’s Days with mixed results I may have actually found some guidance in this article What a girl wants for Valentine’s Day
I think the first thing she would like is that “I actually planned for Valentine’s Day”. That means I didn’t pick something up on the way home from work. That bad habit seems to have never brought good results on our anniversary every year, so why would I think it would work on Valentine’s Day …go figure.
I suppose that “planning thing” also excludes buying anything they sell at CVS or Walgreens. Ergo, I probably need to shop at a store that sells little unique things woman might want. I have deduced that this probably means shopping at a little curio or gift shop she might actually shop at. Jewelry is not a requirement here unless you just bought a new toy or tool for yourself the week before. Just do the thinking, spend and time, and complete with action – complete with wrapping paper and a card.
Pre Valentine’s Day planning and action here actually has a potential double bonus: You can give her the gift in the morning and she will love you all day and not have to anticipate the yearly disappointment she might discover at the end of the day. Plus, she might Facebook all of her friends about how wonderful you are, which really means “How smart she is to have chosen you and managed you to this high level of relationship knowledge”. You too can be the Master of Connection.
Well that’s it guys. There is of course “more to the story” but come on, we’re guys here. Show her she’s special by planning days before the event. Note: This is a skill, not a talent.
Resources: My path to enlightenment has been helped immeasurably by playing Do Tell Original with other couples. It works.